One of the most common fantasies is undoubtedly to have an affair with a person with whom you work. So many hours together, talking, sharing tasks, glances, spaces, events… Besides, there is always that mysterious curiosity that an office, the uniforms and the whole atmosphere produce.
Especially in times like these when there are events, new projects and the well-known company dinners or lunches to celebrate the new year. It is something that is done regardless of where you live. And by motivating this rapprochement between all workers, a co-worker can always become something else.
Sex at work: just a fantasy?
How many times has fantasy with the secretary or the boss been discussed? Having an affair or an erotic encounter in the office is not as rare as it seems. Late-night meetings, sharing tasks, travelling for work….
These are people who share about eight hours a day or so. Practically more than they spend at home or with friends. Intense hours of cooperation, interaction, effort and a long etcetera. That’s why sometimes it’s easy to fall in love with a coworker. Many things are shared and you end up seeing them with different eyes.
In the office, making photocopies, a glance, moving your hair in a certain way, seeing them in their uniform or work clothes. Many moments that in just a flash can turn into something more. A quickie in the storeroom, in the toilets, in the office or even by the photocopier. When passion appears…
Indeed, work is always a place where the imagination can run wild. Dreaming of going beyond and what it would be like to let yourself go and feel it all. Even many erotic stories, porn movies and wet dreams are inspired by this kind of fantasy.
Advantages and disadvantages of sex at work
In reality there are many pros and cons of having a sexual encounter with a person from work. Because yes, at first it may seem like something exciting and that can be a happy ending to a trip, dinner or a hard day’s work. But it is important to really think about whether, beyond all that curiosity and desire, what will be the consequences: you can have a great time, but what happens afterwards?
Sharing
After that meeting, it is a given that you will not be able to stop seeing or hearing from that person. So no matter how it ends, you’re going to be close to them. So if you find it awkward, uncomfortable or strange to see him or her again, it is better not to do it.
It also depends on the department because if it is very close, in addition to spaces, you will also have to work as a team, talk and interact in order to be able to work and move the project forward.
Position of power
What if he or she is also a boss or holds a position of power? It is true that this kind of interaction tends to provoke a lot, especially if they are very attractive people. It seems that when they have power and confidence, they are even more desirable.
Besides, it clearly tends to be related to dominant and submissive roles. Mainly due to the role that is exercised in the workplace in a natural way.
Other colleagues
It depends on the type of job, the position and the company, but usually when colleagues find out what has happened, they talk. As if it were gossip from a high school playground or the new love story of the fashion series. When something happens between several people that a group knows, it is impossible not to talk about it. Even if it’s just whispered and behind the protagonists’ backs.
So, in order to be able to return to work comfortably and at ease, it is better to think about it before doing so. Even though it is sometimes too complicated.
Do it at work or not? That is the question
As Hamlet would say, is it really worth it? The reality is that it depends on the case, the company, the moment, the place… Succumbing to desire is very tempting but if you do it is important to be able to assume the consequences of the act.
There are many couples who, after working together, have ended up falling in love and even getting married. Others have simply been friends with rights or the result of drinks at a company dinner. Whatever the case, it is vital to be aware of what will happen next, to know if it is worth the temptation. Also if it is something of a crazy night with a person from work or something beyond. Getting to know the colleagues is always interesting, but it’s up to you to decide to what extent you want to get to know them.