Increasing pleasure is always possible. There are many possibilities and practices that help to experiment with one’s own body’s capacity to feel. One of them is Kunyaza sex. A type that contrasts with one of the first ideas that one has about sex. Where the man has a leading role, mainly dominant over the woman.
This sometimes means that female satisfaction and enjoyment is relegated to second place. An idea that is gradually changing. Practices such as Kunyaza, so respected in some parts of Africa, extol and prioritize female pleasure.
A technique that will drive her crazy with pleasure, reach orgasm and ejaculate. Some use it as foreplay to increase the temperature of the environment and increase the tension and sexual desire to continue maximizing the pleasure.
What does Kunyaza mean?
It is a word originating in Central Africa, especially in rural areas. Kunyaza in Ruandi, literally means “to urinate”. Although other expressions such as “to make water gush” are also used.
It is a tradition and an honor to practice it. Passed down from one generation to the next, it has its origins in a legend. When a king went to war leaving his queen alone. So he looked for a lover to satisfy her. But this one, fearful of the reprisals that the king could have with him when he returned, was not able to penetrate her. So he simply rubbed his penis over the queen’s vaginal lips and vagina. Thus creating more lubrication and stimulation.
Since then, it is customary to give a banana fiber mat at weddings in the area, to protect the beds from all future wet nights of female orgasms. There is even a documentary on this technique called “Sacred waters” directed by Olivier Jourdain.
The data even claims that there are women who have traveled and visited these areas seeking only to try and enjoy Kunyaza with local men.
How to practice it?
It consists of several phases and although it is normally associated with heterosexual relationships, it can also be enjoyed between lesbian women. The main objective is to stimulate the female genitals, with fingers, mouth, penis or any object or sex toy. Experimenting without penetration in order to achieve squirting or female ejaculation and orgasm.
First rub the vaginal lips and the hole of the vagina, in the external area, with the help of some lubricant to make it slide better. Vibrate with the mouth, as in humming. The idea is to tempt, start softly and as she asks for more, increase the rhythm and intensity. Try different movements and pressures to see how it feels. Then you can increase the stimulation with penetration, but only the tip.
The experts recommend to fully enjoy the Kunyaza:
- Shave the area. The less hair, the more skin friction and therefore greater sensitivity in the area.
- A matter of posture. Ideally, she should lie on her back on the bed with her legs open to facilitate stimulation and pleasure. Although doggy style and spooning are also good for this type of practice.
- Relaxation, comfort and letting go. Three essential elements for this technique. A moment in which the only important thing is to feel and enjoy without shame or prejudice.
Female pleasure, that great unknown
So Africans are the best lovers because they know how to practice Kunyaza? The answer is simple, they don’t have to be. In matters of sex the important thing is to know yourself and your sexual partner as well as making sure that everyone involved enjoyed the experience to the fullest.
Just as male orgasm is often associated with ejaculation, female pleasure is less visible. It is even quite common among women to have to fake an orgasm to satisfy another person.
So how do you know when the orgasm is real? Communication and trust is important, as well as interest in giving pleasure. Observe how your body arches, whether it moans, screams or clings, or claws. Ask questions, explore and experiment, discovering the most sensitive areas of your own body. Keep an open mind, to know what is most and least desirable in bed, what are all your fantasies, relax and let yourself be carried away by all that sex provokes in the body. Only in this way can anyone become a sensual sex god and an incredible lover.
So practicing Kunyaza sex is just a means to ensure and explore female pleasure. To have patience and control to provoke and create that temptation and desire so that after provoking her orgasm to continue as desired and that he also finishes after enjoying seeing all the pleasure that he has been able to provoke her.