Fortunately, sexual relations, sexuality and its nuances are increasingly being discussed in society. Topics such as homosexuality, polyamory, sex between friends and even fetishes and fantasies are gaining more and more tone and voice. Especially when it comes to human relationships.
The fact is that human beings are social beings by nature, who like interaction, contact, displays of affection, exchange…. And it is precisely at this point that friendships, for example, can take on a new meaning.
In Spanish they are amigos con derechos (friends with rights), in Portuguese they are called amigos coloridos (colourful friends), but the language is not really important. The thing is, it is becoming more and more popular to meet people who identify themselves as so-called friends with benefits.
But how exactly does sex between friends work?
First of all, the concept of friendship needs to be analysed. A friend is considered to be a person you trust and feel comfortable with. Someone who supports and brings good feelings to life and existence. Someone with whom you can laugh, cry, share and give with the certainty that it will be reciprocated.
In the same way, sex between friends develops, having someone to call when you feel like climbing the walls with so much desire. Having an exchange of affection and genuine love from someone who cares about the other, even if this does not imply a partnership.
On the other hand, the bond of affection created by friendship already exists, and when sexually intimate, having a bond is vital to enjoy it. Especially in the case of women. This is because, according to expert analysis, women tend to adjust and have more positive responses. In fact, most women have more orgasms when they feel comfortable and confident with their sexual partner.
Men, on the other hand, tend to be a bit more visual and straight to the point when it comes to sex. Yet, that doesn’t mean that bonding cannot take pleasure to another level with more relaxation and connection.
Is sex between friends for everyone?
The quick and straightforward answer would be yes. The most intimate relationship between friends should not involve any burden, jealousy, sense of ownership, or anything like that. Exploring sexuality with a friend should be a simple, no-strings-attached good time. The thing is that feelings are unpredictable and the realm of the heart cannot be controlled.
Even if the rules have been clearly established and agreed upon by both of them, one or the other may still fall in love. At some point, he or she may even lose interest in further sexual encounters. That is when one may be left at the mercy of the other.
Are there differences between men and women?
While common sense might lead one to think that men are more carefree, when it comes to sex between friends or friends with benefits, this is not always the case. Women are increasingly enjoying and indulging in sex with no attachments.
There is no rule about it. What is important to know is where one is in their life and what they are looking for. For example, if a person is looking for a formal relationship, it is advisable to avoid having sex between friends. This is because, according to psychologists and social specialists, this can turn into a real mess.
Firstly, because the party interested in a relationship can take the story to a more romantic level, so to speak. In this way, this person starts to imagine and create movies in his or her head that have never really existed and may never exist. Thus, it increases the chances of ruining the sexual encounter and even the friendship.
Secondly, because having this kind of fuckbuddy takes up a lot of emotional space. Space that, theoretically, should be left to the future partner one wishes to have.
So, to have or not to have sex between friends?
On the assumption that love and sex are two completely different impulses, if the people involved are clear and in agreement, there is no reason to deprive themselves of this pleasure. Many even claim that the friendship has been strengthened after sexual contact.
However, it is important to understand the risks involved in sex between friends. Clarify expectations before taking this step into the physical. Still, if passion overwhelms one of the partners, the ideal is to have a frank conversation. Explain the feelings and put an end to the affair so as not to cause emotional damage and end up affecting the friendship or even ending it.
To do this, it is essential to preserve the bonds of trust, to communicate directly and clearly, and to have maturity when it comes to separating things. When in doubt, it is better not to risk it. After all, a friendship is worth much more than a few nights of passion, right?