Men need more sex than women. How true is that? They seem to have it easier because it is taken for granted and socially accepted that they naturally think more about it and require venting and unloading. But just as they are excused from that, they are also required to have a certain level in bed. To “be men” and live up to it, or to put it another way, to endure and avoid premature ejaculation.
Although everyone experiences sexuality in their own way and there are many different sexual practices, there are a number of social standards and prejudices regarding the role of each gender in sex. As if to define normality or what is good and bad.
It is clear that finishing before reaching a climax or orgasm is not good for anyone. If you have sex you expect certain things, but maybe that’s the problem: expectations. The human being lives in a tireless search for greater pleasure and happiness.
So, to some extent, most people want to adapt and reach the measure of “god of sex” and drive any sexual partner crazy with pleasure. This is mainly due to the fear of criticism and “not measuring up” by having a premature ejaculation or by finishing earlier than expected. This is especially true for men, since they are the ones who bear the social responsibility for pleasure. Despite the increase in the women’s empowerment movement, and the fact that this image is gradually changing, men have historically always been the active and protagonist in this type of act.
The man of virility, the successful one if he could satisfy the biggest number of women or the idiot if he could not do it. This is important because sex is influenced by many things, such as the mind, nerves or stress. That’s why they always recommend letting yourself go.
What is premature ejaculation?
It is when the man runs or ejaculates, expelling the semen in a short time and without control. This is a type of problem that can even be a trauma for some, so it is important to treat it properly.
It has even created a certain taboo about it, being even uncomfortable to talk about it. This is due to the fear of mockery or criticism from others. It is therefore important to devote the necessary importance because in most cases can be solved.
Why can it be produced?
As mentioned above on many occasions, premature ejaculation can be a psychological problem. Either because of previous bad experiences or because of periods of great stress and anxiety.
This is another very sensitive part of the body that also needs a certain level of care. Practice, exercise… Even a good diet influences the penis and testicles. There are even studies that show that what you eat depends on what you know about the semen in one way or another.
Premature ejaculation can also be the result of some biological and anatomical problem. It can be hereditary or some kind of infection or disease in the area.
How to react if it happens?
It has even been parodied in some film scenes, usually associated with the typical phrases of “It’s the first time it’s happened to me”, “It’s never happened to me before”… followed by an uncomfortable silence and the end of all eroticism and attraction. But it doesn’t have to be like that.
- For him: The first thing is to breathe and stay calm. Forget that you stop being a man just because it happens or that you’re going to lose your manhood. At first, it may even be “normal”, especially in the first few times. Try masturbation, get to know your own body better, how you feel. And if you find that it is prolonged in time or is something that raises too much personal concern, consult a professional, a doctor and resolve all possible doubts.
- For her: It is also recommended to breathe without panic or instant rejection. In these matters it is always good to respond in a calm and quiet way. Neither feel guilty nor blame the child to make him feel bad. But neither should you feel less desired or beautiful when you find yourself in a situation with premature ejaculation.
It’s important to think that sex isn’t all about penetration. The penis or virile member are not the only ones that can make real the magic of pleasure and orgasms. There are a thousand sexual practices and a multitude of erogenous zones, as well as fetishes, fantasies and postures to try in order to find pleasure. You can also use sex toys that help stimulate the penis and help it to hold more, such as rings or lubricants and hot and cold gels. Or, on the other hand, others that substitute the penis like dildos, dildos or vibrators if the thing does not get up after waiting a while.
In short, premature ejaculation can be a problem sometimes, but it has a solution. And there are hundreds of other ways to continue to have fun even when it happens. So, why let him cut the crap?
