This is the perfect moment, maybe it’s been a long time since there’s been a better one than this. It is the occasion to be able to be with yourself and discover where your limits are, to be able to discover your sexuality in isolation is one of the advantages of the quarantine to which thousands and billions of people around the world are subjected. You just have to get the positive part out of it.
Self-knowledge is very important. Because if you know exactly what you like and excite, you can do more. And experimenting and practicing to achieve it can be a lot of fun.
Much has already been said about how the new pandemic situation has affected everyone’s reality and routine. It is true that each country has been affected differently and the measures are not exactly the same. But one thing that is certain and common to all is the recommendation of social distancing and the impediment of physical contact. But this does not have to be a problem in itself and even less so when it comes to sexuality. This is the perfect time to discover where the boundaries of your sexuality in isolation.
They say that nothing is worthwhile if one does not make a minimum effort for it. So let’s look on the bright side. For example, as an opportunity to discover one’s own sexuality, to find the pleasure of discovering oneself. For this reason we would like to make a series of proposals according to the situation in which each one finds himself.
At home alone, with roommates or with family?
In these situations it is important to maintain a certain routine, to interact with more people but without losing an intimate space of your own. It is ideal to live with oneself to have a personal encounter where one feels free to do what one wants.
Some of the things that can be done are, according to the level of daring and desire.
Sexuality in isolation, alone with you:
- Take care of yourself and pamper yourself. How? Easy enjoy long showers, moisturize your skin, play sports… The question is to look and feel handsome or beautiful and sexy.
- Homemade sex toys. With imagination many of the objects we use every day could give sexual pleasure. Besides the typical ones with phallic forms like the cucumber or the zucchini. Some examples are a toothbrush, a belt, a tie, a pearl necklace, some clips (for the nipples of BDSM lovers), candles, a duster or even a pillow. Always things that can’t be broken or could be dangerous. The aim is to have an orgasm, not to end up in hospital.
- Try masturbating in different rooms and places. There are a thousand ways to give yourself an orgasm. Different positions, with fingers, just with the clitoris… And in front of the mirror? Or with the water jet in the shower?
With a partner:
- Try an escort webcam or a hot video call with your partner or that special friend.
- Sleeping naked and feeling the rubbing of the sheets and one’s own skin on other parts of the body.
- To record yourself or take hot erotic pictures. They can be nude or less explicit but just as exciting. The point is to try and see the results until you find the sexiest side of each one.
- Going around the house naked. Apart from your pyjamas and tracksuit, it is advisable to make yourself or your partner look good, and if possible, pay homage to each other and go home naked.
- Taste aphrodisiac foods and hot/cold contrasts. Maybe with an ice cube, strawberries, liquid chocolate, bananas, honey, some wine, figs, truffles or watermelon among others. The point is to eat them slowly, lick them or even walk around with them on your own naked body or with clothes.
With someone else?
- Watching porn. Although this is the easiest and closest option for everyone, it has always proved to be quite useful if you want an orgasm, really.
- Make an erotic audio to send to another person, keep it yourself or publish it on the internet. Either way you can test the tone, intensity and what to say.
- Change with the window open, in case a neighbor wants to watch. This is a bit more daring but it increases the self-esteem to feel wanted or desired. Also, who knows, maybe some beautiful potential friend will appear among the neighbors. You also learn a lot by watching from a window, there may always be someone who is doing exciting exercises…
- Try writing an erotic story or reading one online. This will help you discover what fantasies and fetishes each one has. Besides enriching the imagination for future sexual encounters alone or in company. Because as Octavio Paz said: “In every erotic encounter there is an invisible and always active character: the imagination.”
Sexuality in isolation or with a partner?
In addition to those already mentioned, there are many other possibilities in the case of having the couple in the same house. It is obvious that it is not a question of being together for 24 hours because in the end the cohabitation is saturated and the objective is to enjoy and let yourself go. So you can combine some intimacy and pleasure in solitude and then share it.
- Romantic details, prepare some special candlelight meal. Redecorate a room, play some soft music and let yourself go.
- Surprise the couple at any time of day in a suggestive way. Some intentional touching, some provocative disguise… Imagination to power.
- Playing erotic games. Questions about hidden fantasies, dice that mark what to do and where, sexual roulette… There are infinity of very amusing options.
- Try other sexual practices such as BDSM, bed tying, foot fetish or others.
- Try doing it in different positions and places in the house.
These are just some of the ideas to do in quarantine or without it to forget about stress, anxiety and routine and enjoy very good times alone or in company. Because everyone lives sexuality in a different way and it is important to get to know each other well in order to increase and intensify current and future pleasure, and of course enjoy your sexuality in isolation. All without forgetting to take care of yourself whether it is the COVID-19 virus, an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease. Try, experiment and discover what causes orgasms so that you can enjoy them without worrying and be the master of your own pleasure.