Women are from Venus and men are from Mars. It is a fact that both genders are very different from each other. Not to mention other people who may not even identify with either of them. But to mention the clichés, it is quite common for women to be the ones who get their heads around everything the most. So they end up having more sexual problems than men do.
Many of them are mainly born out of misinformation. This is because sex from a male perspective is very naturalized and talked about on a daily basis. Most of the population knows or can quickly figure out how to give a blowjob or male masturbation. Stimulating the penis today may seem simple, but what about the clitoris and the female body?
What are sexual problems?
As anywhere, you have to start at the beginning. Sexual problems are understood as all those things that prevent, in this case the woman, from enjoying sexual relations.
That is why, with this definition, hundreds could be named. From mental, emotional or physical. Therefore, the following are the most popular ones.
Lack of desire
Something that, thanks to the pandemic, many people have been able to experience. It is a decrease in the desire and willingness to have sex. But above all because they are dissatisfied with their partner at that moment. Situations like this gave rise to the mythical, “I have a headache, not now” or even having to fake orgasms.
It may or may not be true that men may always have more desire for sex than women. However, sexual desire is very important in order to be able to enjoy and get carried away in sex. Feeling attracted, desired and having the other person make an effort to seduce you. It is easier to give in to temptation and to ignite the flame if there is already a spark.
Anorgasmia
This is one of the sexual problems that generate the most concern among females. “Am I frigid?” “Do I have any problems?”
Whether you have never fully enjoyed sex or have stopped feeling pleasure, it is necessary to take this into account and be as objective as possible. The reasons can be very diverse. It may be due to a stressful phase, an emotional issue or that the sexual partner does not know how to make the female orgasm. Whatever it is, it can be temporary or permanent. But if it is an issue that worries you, in the end, it is best to consult a professional and get informed.
Insecurities that lead to sexual problems
Female standards about the body and how it should be to be perfect, beautiful and sexy as well as social history have influenced a lot. Especially in the way of thinking and expectations. Not to mention social media. Showing oneself completely naked, having sex with the light on, discovering and exploring one’s sexuality and not being able to satisfy one’s sexual partner are often some of the most common sexual problems.
These include not feeling sexy, embarrassment about getting into a certain pose, noises or even faces or body parts being exposed. As well as trying to achieve the existing idea of sex, which usually coincides with the one shown in porn. Or at least the idea that the sexual partner expects it. Always ready, all the way and in any position.
Vaginismus
This or any type of sexually transmitted disease (STD) or infection when having sex is also one of the biggest sexual problems that everyone has. The lack of information and what others will think if it is known that a woman has one. This suffering in silence has serious long-term consequences.
Having painful sexual intercourse or even the impossibility of having it and not being able to share it or unburden yourself to anyone is worse. Therefore, information, hygiene, protection, keeping calm and following the advice of a specialist and professional is the best way to avoid this type of situation.
Sexual problems due to lack of communication
The question of whether and how to tell the partner about something related to sex can raise many concerns. It is important to have a space of trust and understanding in which one can openly talk about all the fantasies and desires one has.
Whether it is about an intimate game, some kind of role play, or in a certain place. Whatever it is, one should freely explore one’s sexuality and experience the limits of pleasure. Playing, tempting, touching, sucking, biting… It’s the best way to find out what is most enjoyable and to be able to repeat.