Does infidelity mean the end of the relationship? For many people the answer is clear, yes. But for many others, such as cuckolding, everything changes. Something that a few years ago seemed completely unthinkable and unacceptable. Now it is something that more and more people try. The cuckolding is an explicit pact between both components of the couple. Among those who specify how the woman usually has “permission” to have sex with other men. Everything can happen under the watchful eye of the boyfriend in question or without it. Why do they do it then? Pure lust?
This is because they enjoy it when it happens and both are in agreement. More and more people are exploring their sexuality and broadening their horizons by finding pleasure in different ways.
Cuckolding versus voyeur
Although there is still much debate, cuckolding is a fetish. Whereby, a man finds greater arousal when watching or listening to how his wife enjoys having sex with other men.
Some claim that this is a hidden form of bisexuality. As an excuse to be able to see other men having live sex. Although the option of having a threesome, in the case of being bisexual, would be more interesting. This is because it allows interaction between the three people.
In the case of a cuckold man, it is only about watching the partner enjoy herself or hearing from her mouth how much fun she has had and all she has done. It is about adventures chosen, permitted and consented upon by both partners.
It is also important to distinguish it from another sexual practice known as voyeurism. The difference with this one is, mainly, that it involves a partner. In voyeurism, pleasure and arousal is found in watching strangers having sex. While cuckolding is seeing, hearing or knowing that the girlfriend has orgasms with more people.
How to enjoy cuckolding?
In this type of sexual practice and fetish, at least three people participate. The cuckold man or cuckold, the hotwife and the last one who would be the lover. So in order to enjoy cuckolding properly, all parties must be in agreement.
On the one hand, the couple has to have trust and understanding. Be sure that you both want it to happen and that it won’t affect the feelings you have for each other. It’s just about sex.
The cuckold merely observes her partner or waits for her to tell him in detail the erotic story of her experience. While she, in this way, has “permission” to have sex with other men in front of her partner or knowing that he knows about it.
It is because of this type of situation that not everyone is prepared to lead such a relationship. There are many who are unfaithful directly but not with the same objective. The secret of cuckolding is that all parties of the couple are aware and decide how, when and with whom.
For this it is also very important to communicate and to be clear about one’s own sexuality. To leave possible embarrassments and taboos behind. To have your feelings defined, as well as your limits and the extent to which you are willing to experiment both with your partner and with your lover.
Perhaps it is not necessary a written contract as in 50 Shades of Grey but a minimum agreement is necessary. There are even communities and forums where you can find people who enjoy this type of fetish. Even in Skokka’s search engine you can find ads.
New relationship concept
Cuckolding is a fetish that can really only be fully enjoyed by stable couples. It has nothing to do with swingers, polyamory, or open relationships. It is simply two adults who love each other but enjoy sex. One of them is watching or listening to what his girlfriend or wife went through and did in another sexual relationship. While he is getting off on listening or watching by reenacting the situation.
However, both are clear that this is just about sex. In the same way as everyone else who is involved in this relationship in a physical way. Since many men may find it uncomfortable to have her boyfriend there watching while they are in the middle of the action.
So it is a way of obtaining and intensifying pleasure. Beyond wanting to spice up the relationship. It’s something you have to talk about and be sure you want to experiment with. Because it can be a lot of fun, but no one wants to lose a partner to it, as feelings are mixed up in it.
Although many define it as pure lust and excitement, it can also help to deepen the bond with the partner. It increases orgasms, but also confidence, comfort and disinhibition in oneself and with one’s boyfriend and girlfriend. But before doing so, it is necessary to be 100% sure of what you want, how and with whom in order to be able to give free rein to sexuality and the ecstasy of pleasure by watching your partner enjoy or being aware that he is there and can see how you moan and scream in the arms of another, with the “forbidden”.