The crush, or the person who is attractive or desirable can be of many different types. There are just some that are more normalized than others. For example, it is very popular to have erotic dreams about Scarlett Johanson, Beyoncé, George Clooney or Chris Hemsworth, no matter how old you are. But there are other types of relationships and desires that a priori may not be so socially accepted. This is the case of cubbing, for example.
A new trend that is becoming more and more common but for which there is much debate. It is about those couples formed by a woman more than 10 years older than her male partner. A matter of love? A matter of interest? Or just sex? A clear example is the story told in the American Playboy movie. In which Ashton Kutcher seduces and becomes the sex toy of a woman much older than him (Samantha, the attorney general) to continue with a life of luxury.
Cubbing and the importance of age
Many new sex and relationship terms are emerging these days. Cubbing, in this case, is one of them. It comes from the English word “cub” which means puppy.
As applied to couples it refers to when an older woman (around 50 years old) is with a much younger man. In the same way, this type of female is known as cougar, which means a puma.
Thus a parallel is drawn between the animal world and society. Making a comparison between women and the pumas and the hunting of cubs. The strategy, the first approaches, the seduction… This is cubbing.
And the fact is that there is nothing written in terms of preferences. In the same way that there are advantages of being with an older person, there are also advantages of being with someone much younger. Even in portals such as Skokka, which is present in up to 26 countries, practically in all of them, two of the most searched words are usually young or mature. Referring to the age of the person sought and desired.
Taboos vs. reality of cubbing
In great movie classics there are already couples with a visible age difference. A clear example is Pretty Woman. It featured a young Julia Roberts at the age of 22 while Richard Gere was already 40. Here it is the reverse of cubbing. He is known as sugar daddy, in which Julia would be the sugar baby.
There is a lot of debate. Although it is a reality, when the man is mature and the woman the younger one, it seems more natural. And one can even look for reasons such as a possible interest or on the grounds that women mature earlier and if their male partner is older, they are mentally at the same level. This is questionable, as it would have to be looked at on a case-by-case basis. But everything changes when the opposite happens, when the woman is older.
Cubbing is a word that became popular to refer to a trend. A term that began thanks to the mythical series Sex and the City. From it you can name many examples of celebrities with 10 or more years of difference. This is the case of Elsa Pataky and Cris Hemsworth, Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra, Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde or Ana Barbara and Angel Muñoz.
Let them talk…
What can a younger man look for in an older woman? Many public figures, especially those in a relationship like the one cubbing refers to, have confessed that many ask questions about the age difference.
Experts and sexologists say they may be looking for protection, experience or stability. And women may feel younger and more confident. Yet, many others disapprove the name as it is a really unnecessary label.
So, to what extent does it matter how old one is? Whether it is a partner, a purely sexual interest, or simply companionship or friendship. Love and attraction has no age, the only people who should care and have a valued opinion are the people involved.
Life is often complicated enough without adding more headaches and worries. That is why when desire and attraction is sparked and especially when it is reciprocated, why wait to let yourself go and enjoy it?
Cubbing, cougar or sugar does not matter
Sex and love are for experimentation but above all for enjoyment. Therefore, whatever the tastes or what arises depending on the phase and moment in which each person is, giving it a chance is important.
As many say, you need to add years to life but also life to those years. So whether it’s cubbing, sugar or cougar, BDSM, free love, open partnership… as long as it makes you happy and it’s by consent of all people involved.
