Wish. It is a word that helps to express dreams, fantasies and desires. Like being rich, famous, travel around the world and a long etcetera. The problem comes when it refers to the sexual field. Especially in couple relationships. There are endless doubts, questions and worries about it. Why? It should be better, simpler and more comfortable since it is better to make all sexual fantasies come true. Right?
For many people it can become an obstacle in the relationship. This is due to the taboos, embarrassments and prejudices that exist. From how to raise them to the other person, if he/she will want to make it happen, what will he/she think of it?
Avoiding routine in your relationships
Maintaining the flame and desire over time in a couple’s relationship is key for it to last. Therefore, limiting yourself to trying the missionary position every time you have an intimate encounter can be tedious and boring.
Passion is very important. Innovating, experimenting, that flood of energy that runs through the whole body… Not knowing exactly what is going to happen, letting yourself go and enjoying a crazy night. Knowing how it starts while unknown the end.
Routine, always doing the same thing, step by step, gets tiring in the end. In addition to being boring, pleasure decreases and you stop enjoying yourself. For the beginning it may be fine, but to stagnate and stop innovating can be fatal for the couple’s relationship.
Most popular fantasies
Sexual fantasies are imaginary situations and moments that provoke great pleasure. When it comes to those erotic dreams to come true, the typical ones are always more successful. Whether you are in a relationship or single, men and women tend to have certain fantasies.
Does this mean that everyone has the same ones? No, but there is a good chance. For example, among the male gender usually triumphs more to participate in a trio or orgy with more than one woman, have sex with a stranger or someone close to an acquaintance and even in public places. For women, on the other hand, more submissive roles, uniforms and romanticism are supposed to be more common.
How to enjoy fantasies in couple relationships?
Fantasizing is innate and natural in most people so there should be room for it in relationships. Encourage and provoke the imagination to increase desire. In order to discover and freely experience sexuality, several things are necessary.
Self-knowledge
The first thing to do is to discover what your desires are and what you enjoy in and out of bed. To do this, you can resort to reliving some past experience of one of the couple relationships, one-night stand or sex buddy. You can also watch some porn, enter a hot chat room or read an erotic story. Anything that stimulates the brain and provokes that spark that makes the temperature of the environment and the body rise.
Communication in couple relationships
Secondly, create a space of trust and understanding with the partner in question in which you can talk calmly about what you enjoy most between the sheets. Feeling safe and being able to confess out loud what your sexual fantasies are can make them come true. Of course, this is only if you know what the person is like and what the fantasy in question is or if it could be dangerous.
For example if it is to do it with a boss or secretary, in the gym, in the shower, some public place… Or even a threesome or voyeur version (watch while your partner has sex). Because you can always recreate some roleplay with the help of a costume.
Experiment
Be encouraged to try new things, perhaps with a remote-controlled toy or a special clothing item. Propose a different plan, let yourself go and try new experiences. In every couple’s relationship, it is appreciated. Get out of the spoon, the missionary and on all fours. Avoid routine and become a master of seduction. A striptease, an early morning, a quickie… Or even recreate that scene from a favorite movie or series. Surprise your partner and spice up your relationship.
Fantasy or desire? Sharing and enjoying in couple relationships
These are two different concepts. That is, fantasy refers to the mental plane. Imagining situations and things that may be impossible in reality. This is because the brain is very powerful and is capable of coming up with a multitude of scenarios. However, desire implies action. What does this mean? That it would be very pleasant to carry it out in reality. Therefore, they are the ones that are interesting to share in a couple’s relationship or with a sex buddy. Because erotic dreams and possibilities are endless, but which of them can really provoke pleasure in reality?
For all this, and answering the initial question, clearly yes, sexual fantasies help couple relationships. But only when taboos and prejudices are put aside and there is communication and sharing to try to make them come true…