What’s the worst thing that can happen during a sexual encounter? With a partner, an escort or a one-night stand. Unfortunately, nothing is perfect. Everyone has the expectations and the idea of how it should be or how pleasant it can be. But even the smallest detail can change everything and end the passion. Believe it or not, most people make very typical sexual mistakes.
Everyone is different and enjoys many things in bed, of course. Everyone has their own fantasies, tastes and fetishes. Although it seems that in terms of attraction and desire, standards can be established that work if not in all cases, in most cases. That is why it is important to know the most common mistakes. But above all, something also very relevant that is the best way to react to them. All so that the meeting is satisfactory and does not end in disaster.
The most made sexual mistakes:
1.- Smell, personal care… People have five senses.
When it comes to sex, it’s not all about kissing, touching and penetration. Everything helps a person get excited. The perfume she’s wearing, the grooming. It is clear that the first thing that catches someone’s attention is sight, but the other senses can help too. Hearing, smell, sight, taste and touch want to be satisfied. No one wants to get close to or is attracted to something or someone that might be unpleasant to one of these senses.
That’s why it’s important to take the time to take care of personal hygiene in all parts of the body. Just imagine performing oral sex, getting close and smelling… Not to mention the subject of waxing or taking care of possible unwanted pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) by using a condom, for example.
2.- The starfish
Believe it or not, this is a more common sexual mistake than it appears. Like everything else in life, you can’t expect happiness and pleasure to come along without doing something. It can be fun at some point to stand still and let yourself be done, but not during the whole act.
Life is not like a movie where sex comes out of nowhere and without effort. Slowly and steadily, experiment, test and play. Falling into a rut is the worst enemy of attraction and desire. Focusing on the present, on the whole experience of conquest, approaching and giving free rein to passion without thinking of anything or anyone else.
3.- Shames and Expectations
Do it with the light off, cover up with the sheet, avoid looking into each other’s eyes for the duration of the encounter… A lot of people have ever thought about doing these things. All because of the shame of the whole process. The complexes and insecurities about oneself are accentuated.
The idea that most people have of sex is conceived mainly thanks to the porn they watch. But sexual relations are far from these encounters that are shown online. In those moments all that matters is pleasure. Being concerned about how it will look from the outside, or even that something about the body may be unpleasant to the other person is just an impediment to enjoyment.
Especially men are very visual and get more excited the more uninhibited and natural they see their companion. If you’ve already reached the point of sex, the attraction is obvious, isn’t it?
4.- How much is too much talking to be one of the most common sexual mistakes?
This is another of the most common sexual mistakes. Especially for the inexperienced. Nerves and tension, as well as the desire to do well, can lead to a talk that is too long.
Mentioning other lovers, saying everything that is done wrong and even asking if everything that is done is satisfactory. How many things can one talk about in these moments of intimacy?
During the preliminaries, some whispered comment or some words are fine. But it’s time to let the bodies and the desire speak. Letting yourself go and transmitting much more than words. Having a conversation that is too long or asking an uncomfortable question can end the excitement of the moment. Especially for women as they are more mental and give them reason to think about other things than passion and sex can end the encounter.
5.- 1 + 1 = 2
Many times this sexual mistake is made. There’s more than one person in that place. Both with feelings, thoughts and desires. At the moment and as far as we know, they are not gods or pleasure machines that can read minds to know everything their companions want.
The thing is to find the balance and if you see that something is twisted, indicate the return to the good path subtly. Interact, experiment and not fall asleep as soon as you ejaculate or fake orgasms to finish sooner. This is one of the ugliest sexual mistakes.
To provoke in the preliminaries, to generate that sexual tension and to be an active part during the sex. Try different positions, be aware that you are with someone the same.
In short, you have to experiment to learn to fully enjoy sex. Take an active part and initiative to test and tempt that person who motivates the attraction. It is all about giving and receiving in equal parts, a moment of interaction and exchange of the most natural and wildest pleasure.